Hacking my social media into submission

I’ve been more than a little frustrated with my social media sites lately. I’m active on Twitter, Facebook, and Tumblr, and I pop in on Pinterest once in a while, though not as much as I once did. Four sites may not sound like that many in today’s world, but it’s been enough to frustrate and overwhelm me — so much so that I was seriously considering a break from social media. But I was reluctant to do it because I work from home; my Twitter and Facebook friends are my equivalent of the co-workers you chat with on breaks during the day, and that little bit of interaction really does make a difference for me. Luckily, I discovered a couple of tricks that have really helped, so I’m not feeling like my social media interactions are out of my control anymore.

The first solution took two minutes, but it completely transformed my Twitter timeline, getting it back to a manageable level. There were a few people I followed who retweeted a lot of article links — and because I valued their opinions, I would inevitably end up either reading those articles or bookmarking them to read later. The solution? Turning off their retweets! (You can find this option by going to their page and clicking the gear icon to get the task menu.) I turned off retweets for four people and immediately my Twitter feed became quieter; the difference was so dramatic it honestly shocked me. I even feel like I could follow some new people now, though I haven’t yet — no point in rushing right back to the same state of overwhelm I had before.

I haven’t been able to find an equivalent hack for Facebook yet, but I did find a pretty nice tool called Social Fixer that I’ve started using. It’s a browser plug-in that allows you to customize some of what you see on Facebook. It allowed me to hide a lot of the clutter surrounding my feed — the menus for events, pages, and developers; all those little sections of “people you may know”, “places nearby” and “recommended pages”; and that annoying list of features that I never use (gifts, games, pokes and the rest of it). My page is so much less cluttered now! And if I do need one of those menus, it’s easy to turn off the plugin temporarily.

I didn’t realize just how much my social media experience was frustrating me until I cleaned it up. I feel like I can enjoy my sites again; using them gives me the break that I want instead of more pressure to See All The Things. If your accounts are driving you crazy, take a few minutes and do something about it before your entire experience gets ruined. Believe me, your overstimulated brain cells will thank you.

Unwelcome news

My friend Christine died of leukemia on Monday. She had been undergoing treatment for several months, but all the news indicated that she was doing great.

She was one of the best people I’ve ever known, and she was far too young to die.

Forgive me

stone-angel-987244-mThe person I wrote this for will probably never read it. But sometimes miracles happen, so I’m going to give it a try.

Dear Ronda,

I am so, so sorry I hurt you, and I deeply regret losing your friendship. I’ve regretted it for over 14 years now, because I’ve never forgotten how much I valued you as a friend or how important you were to me.

I would love to be your friend again if you’ll have me.

I found your work Twitter and thought about contacting you, but I didn’t think that contact would be welcomed and I didn’t want to open up old wounds.

I did a Tarot reading 14 years ago, and it told me we would be friends again. I’d love to believe it was right.

You can find me on Twitter. The ball’s in your court.

Miss you always,

Cheryl

Friends craft the best jewelry

earringsI got new earrings (pictured) a few days ago, courtesy of my friend Karen. (Here’s a close-up photo from her Etsy store.) I’d had my eye on these for a while, so when she put out the word that she was trying to finance some car repairs, I figured that was a pretty good reason to go ahead and buy.

The best thing about getting these earrings (besides helping a friend in need, of course) is that they complement a pendant I bought last summer from my friend Carolyn. It’s an antique gold keyhole pendant, and I didn’t have any earrings that really matched it. So now I’ve got new earrings and solved a problem as well!